Compatibility
Potential Survey
Anywhere that you hear people talking about RELATIONSHIPS you will also hear people talking about 'rating' themselves and potential partners. In reality, a person who is an "8" to one person might be a "10" to another for different reasons and just what that person is looking for. But how can you determine FOR YOURSELF without getting distracted by others' perceptions? Coach Gene and Dr. Doula can help.
There is NO ONE WAY to design a sustainable, mutually satisfying relationship. Understanding the importance of a strong foundation and knowing your potential for compatibility can help you navigate your way through the confusion that often surrounds relationships, and provide you with additional perspectives about what it really takes to establish you and your potential as a Power Couple. You will know whether you may need to slow down and spend more time getting to know the other person or if it would be better for you to just keep it movin'. You can learn more about how the compatibility tool works below.
HOW THE COMPATIBILITY POTENTIAL SURVEY WORKS
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It is important that each person takes personal responsibility for their relationship decisions. Ultimately, family members, religious mentors and relationship gurus will not have to live with the results of the decisions you make about your life and the people you choose to partner with for the journey. By tuning in to yourself and what is important to you, you become better postured and positioned to create a life that adds value to yourself and has the potential to add value to another.
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CLEAR THE PALATE BEFORE RANKING CONNECTIONS
Picture this… You are attending a week long retreat. At this retreat, there will be many individuals that you admire for the work you have seen them do. One day will be set aside for you to spend an entire day with the person of your choice. Which type of connection - physical, intellectual, emotional or spiritual - is most important for you to have between the two of you? Rank the connections with 4 being the most important and 1 being the least important.
Refer to the charts above: "Rank the P.I.E.S. Connections" and "Rate the Interactions"
First, RANK THE P.I.E.S. CONNECTIONS, based on YOUR INTERACTIONS and STANDARDS in the order that matters most to you from highest (4) to lowest (1). Please rank them based on YOUR PERSONAL PREFERENCES.
Next, RATE EACH P.I.E.S. CONNECTION TO THE INDIVIDUAL. Select a number from 5 (highest) to 0 (lowest) to best describe your connection BASED ON YOUR INTERACTIONS with the person.
The Compatibility Potential will be indicated in BLUE.
ABOUT YOUR COMPATIBILITY RESULTS
Take note... If you only rate a person as a 2 in any area (😶MEH...😕), that can become an area of weakness in your partnership and an area where you only tolerate your partner.
We encourage you to REconsider partnerships that rate less than 70% for potential compatibility. Power Couple partnerships are challenging. Having strong connections from the beginning will help establish a strong foundation for partnership.
Also, keep in mind that if someone has a 5 in any area, it is an area where we can experience the most disappointment if it changes. Make sure that you are not looking at them through rose colored 👓glasses. Partners can rate higher or lower in any of the P.I.E.S. Connections over a lifetime of living together through various experiences.
Based on your growth and personal development, the way you RANK your P.I.E.S. Interactions by level of importance can shift.
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Based on the other person's growth and personal development, the way you RATE your interactions with the other person can shift higher or lower.
As you change roles and responsibilities in life, your 1st and 4th P.I.E.S. preferences could switch. Everything about what you prioritize and the other person prioritizes could change. This survey is only an encouragement to consider the POTENTIAL in a very objective and tangible way.
THINGS TO CONSIDER ABOUT COMPATIBILITY
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If you can't rate your interactions with your potential or current partner, you may need more information. If you are serious about a Power Couple partnership, consider engaging in discussions around these types of questions:
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How do you like to relax and unwind? (movies, sports, workout, go out, talking, cooking, cleaning, work on special projects, etc.)
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Do you prefer to stay local or do you like to travel? If so, where would you like to go?
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When you are stressed, do you prefer to get it off your chest (vent) or do you prefer to ponder it before you talk about it?
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Do you think you will ever want to advance your educational studies or return to university to earn advanced degrees?
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What kind of things do you like to do with your closest friends?
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Are there any times when you prefer to be alone?
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Who is the person who has had the greatest impact on your life?
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If money was not a consideration, what would you be? What would you do? Where would you go?
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Share your responses to the questions with the person, too, to see how they respond. And remember, we do not have to lose ourselves in order to be in partnership. When we take personal responsibility over our decisions, the people we invite into our lives can help us see ourselves more clearly and achieve our life's purpose and #RelationshipGoals through partnership.